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Thursday, September 7, 2017

Vow Renewal

8-31-17
Vow renewal - Just the 4 of us

We recently renewed our vows and we included our daughters in the ceremony. 
Our 15th anniversary! We actually did this before- we did it in Vegas because I wanted Elvis to walk me down the aisle and sing ☺️  We also did it another time on the beach before we had children. But we wanted to have the girls involved this time.

Being someone who has written ceremonies for others, it was fun to do this for my own family. However, I did want to do some research and check out other ceremonies since I never did one for a couple that included the children.
What I found was surprising. The only family ceremonies- and there were many- were the blended family ones. The ones blending 2 families together. It's a beautiful idea to do this as 2 families become one. I couldn't believe, though, that I could not find one that included the couple and their own children. We can't be the first family to do this! So I decided to write my own. The first part Danny spoke what he wrote to me and then the girls. The second part I spoke mine to Danny, then the girls. We asked the girls ahead of time if they wanted to say anything and they didn't. They were just excited to be flower girls! 

I did want to exchange something special that all 4 of us would have from this day- bracelets from my favorite Zen Jewelz here in NJ. I love working with Zen Jen - she has made many beautiful bracelets for myself and for gifts- all with special energy flows and meaning. One was a fertility bracelet that I believe helped us (that's another story/blog though :).
All four bracelets have one turquoise stone in common, bonding us together. The girls and I have the pink coral stone (symbolizing the beach ceremony) and a Love tag. For Danny, I had a custom bracelet made with wood opalite since he loves working with wood. 
I'll attach photo below.
The ceremony was just the 4 of us (and a photographer) and it was beautiful. There was one thing I would change and that is something I couldn't control in the first place- the weather. It was probably the windiest day ever on the beach! I prayed for no rain- but I forgot to pray for no wind 😄😄 oh well. As my husband said, it's another lesson on control- we can't control everything. But I wish I knew- then I would have paid for my hair to be up and away- instead of down and blowing away😄 . Danny looked handsome as he always does. The girls had their hair done too (fun!) and looked so beautiful in their custom dresses. 
They always look so beautiful.

We had such a fun week at the jersey shore! The weather was wonderful (except for that one windy day😉) and the girls loved the boardwalk! It was a blast. Especially hearing the girls sing with us on all the car rides and when they repeated "watch the tram car please"! 
I felt so grateful- still do- what a beautiful family I was blessed with❤️❤️

Thursday, April 20, 2017

Set Your Art Free!

4-4-17
Setting your Art free!
I cannot even list all the songs, books, movies, etc that have moved me and changed my life- there are so many!
I sometimes read all I can about the artist and I love biographies especially. In almost every bio or interview, the artist talks about their apprehension of putting their work out into the world...for any number of reasons: fear of judgement, criticism, or not being good enough. I would even say that every artist I know struggles with this. I know I do. I have always struggled with this 'jerk' of a feeling. I find it so interesting  that so many of us feel this way ...and yet so many of us Do the criticizing, add to the judgement and comment on how the artist is not good enough. Another interesting tidbit is that most of those judging and commenting are also artists themselves!
So how do we actually get past the junk and set our work free?? Hmmmm...
I was hoping you could help by sharing your ideas and works for you :)
I'll share what helps me sometimes.
I work it till I feel it's the way it's meant to be at this point in time - my best; and then I share it with someone I trust.
And I ask this person what they think- (usually it's my husband Danny, or my sister Weezie).
Another (braver) idea is to play my song live at an open mic for strangers. Then see what the reactions or feedback is.
I recently joined a wonderful community of musicians online (kompoz.com). Everyone is so encouraging and supportive. I'm so grateful to have this. Here's another idea- Danny gave me a deadline to put my song on Kompoz...and if I didn't, he would. This worked for me too! I am happy and proud to say that a song I've been working on for 5 years just went out into world of kompoz!
I felt so exposed- even though it wasn't the first song I wrote and shared. It was exciting and scary at the same time. Now my 'baby' is out in the world and someone can hurt her...I know all you artists can relate to this! But I believe it's that exact vulnerability that inspires people- just like we're inspired by great art. It's what makes me think I have no right to keep what gift is given to me to myself- I am supposed to share it or it wouldn't be given to me.
When my song is complete I'll share it everywhere. I promise :)
Please share your thoughts, ideas and your beautiful Art! Think of all those you will inspire and help!
Thank you to all Artists! And thank you for listening xo

media experiment

1-19-17 (I know this was a few months ago but felt the need to post it now :]

A media experiment


Some celebrities have amazing talents and I love their music, movies, comedy, etc. Some really inspire and help me as I work on my own art.
However, I'm not interested in what celebrities think about the state of the world (unless they're comedians and it's funny :) 
It's annoying to see it broadcast on news channels like it's some kind of fact we all need to hear. It's not news, it's someone's opinion.
We all have opinions. It's different when you have a discussion with your family and friends. It's two-sided and it's real. 
And while on the topic, let's stop idolizing and putting celebrities on pedestals. They are not gods. Start idolizing and respecting the wonderful everyday people who do good deeds and work hard to make the world a better place...moms and dads and teachers and nurses, doctors, veterinarians, doulas, etc that get up early everyday to take care of children, people, animals. Raising human beings that will one day be part of our world and possibly in positions of power, or taking care of other human beings, and those taking care of people in their hardest times...that's something to admire and applaud! That's something to idolize even. We see hardworking people everyday. Some are serving you at a restaurant, some are rushing from work to pick up their kids from school, and some are giving treatments to cancer patients. Why don't we hear more news stories about everyday people and what they think? What does 'Nancy the nurse' think of the healthcare situation? I would find that much more interesting and watch. Maybe people would find that boring. Maybe it's too similar to our own lives and we want to escape to something different- maybe a fantasy like the life of a celebrity...not me, I'd be more interested in hearing what a teacher thinks about than a celebrity. 
TV has really been so negative and I actually stopped watching news channels a long time ago (unless I'm at someone's home and have no choice :). 
It's quite depressing to hear all the bad and all the wrong in the world.
I wonder what would happen if the news never told of the bad? And only told of the good and positive stories? It would be an interesting experiment...
I bet that the more good stuff all over the media (Oprah's network and Ellen type stuff-which I'm a huge fan of these two celebrities who use their powers for good :),
the more we would all soak that up and start thinking and doing more good. 
Perhaps if the 'bad guys' were not placed all over the news and the covers of magazines and newspapers, less people would feel the need to do negative things to get the 'fame and recognition' they always wanted. Instead people would be doing good things so they could get into the news, magazines, etc.
Maybe I'm very naive...but I do believe that the more positive you surround yourself with, the better you feel and the better you do! What we focus on will expand. 
Let's try focusing on the good stuff. 
Either way, it would make a very interesting experiment. What do you think?
Something to think about...

Friday, April 14, 2017

"Just one of the Guys"


3-31-17



For fun, a friend and I dressed up for an 80s party. I love the 80s and have actually thrown many decade parties in the past.
After many considerations, we decided on Robert Palmer and the chicks in the video (addicted to love). It wasn't my first choice but still it's always fun to dress up :)
So I thought why not be Robert instead of the chick- something different and funny too. Hahaa yes- dress up as a guy! I'm always a girl so why not.
I totally recommend this to everyone! If you're a girl, be a guy for a day- 
and if you're a guy, be a girl for the day.
It's not easy to be a man- just like it's not easy being a woman. You will see things differently. You will also feel different.
I started to feel pressure to act and stand and walk the right way- the way a man is "supposed to be"...After a while, I realized I was acting like a guy and sitting like a guy...seriously! I caught myself sitting there like a man; while my 'date' went to get us candy at the 80s candy bar. I stopped and thought- oh my god I'm sitting like my dad-very strange! I felt I had to introduce my date to people and expected her to introduce me. There were times I felt like I was hidden and protected and then there were times (more of these) when I felt uncomfortable and lost. I didn't dance because I didn't know if I could dance as myself or as Robert Palmer. It was a fun experience and a very interesting experiment. Highly recommend walking in someone else's shoes! You will always learn something :)

Confidence




3-30-17




How different would my life have been if I had more confidence in myself and my abilities?
Interesting question for all.How do we get confidence anyway? I sometimes feel it goes back to how we were raised...But after we do come to that realization, we have a responsibility to get our confidence now as adults. This is not easy since we still have those voices in our heads telling us we suck or we're not good enough. I bet everyone feels this at some point (or at many points :) in their lives.The best thing to do is to acknowledge it and move on to doing what you do. The more focus on it, the bigger (and badder) it becomes. 
That is my experience :)Do whatever you can to feel that confidence and you will really be living life to the fullest. The more we do things, the more confident we will be doing them. We really are wonderful creatures and can do so much good in the world if we believe! And for parents, do the best you can to raise confident children (there's some great great books on this topic). Having true confidence and Believing in yourself is such a huge gift and great head-start in life. They will be forever grateful for that!

Thursday, March 20, 2014

Doulas and Childbirth

Our friends are expecting their third baby in July. Its such an exciting time!
They were asking about our doula and what doulas do. I began to reminisce about the whole birth experience we had when Fiora was born (our second baby). I had a c-section with our first daughter, Sicily, because she was in the breech position (feet down instead of head down). I learned later on that some feel a c-section is not necessary for this reason. Oh well...
The two experiences were very different. My friend asked which experience was better... I can go on and on about this subject; but I'll try not to ;)

Doulas are becoming more mainstream, but I don't think they are household words yet. A quick explanation of what a doula does: a woman who is trained to provide support for women and their families during pregnancy, childbirth, and the period of time following the birth. I got that from dictionary.com.
I feel that having the right doula is a great thing for everyone. Who couldn't use more support during such a big life event! The reason we started the search for a doula was because I really wanted to experience a natural birth. I knew this would be my last birth. My ob/gyn (who I love and still go to now), was scheduling a c-section for 1/20...my due date was 1/21. He said this would give me the chance to do natural...if the baby came by that date. But I didn't believe the baby would come with all that pressure. He felt waiting too long after the due date may be dangerous, especially since I had a c-section last time. I respected and appreciated that he was being cautious.
However, throughout the pregnancy, it was on my mind and I really felt strongly about having a natural experience vs. another surgery.

So I began the search for a doula -to maybe help make my experience a natural one... and I discovered so much more with all my research. There was so much info everywhere! I became obsessed: reading books, websites, connecting with other moms via baby sites, etc! I became very interested in a water birth! In our area, there are not many places that have that option. But Morristown Memorial Hospital does have rooms with the tub for laboring. At Morristown, they also encourage a 'natural' approach to birth...which really means they won't bother you or intervene unless its absolutely necessary. There's also an option of birthing at your home. I didn't feel comfortable having a home birth. Maybe that's because of all the c-section fears and trying for the VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean)...some still feel it's dangerous, some say it's such a low percentage. Even with all I read and learned, I'm not an expert; but I felt I was healthy and I could do it. I have to add that after I shared my desire to have the natural water birth with my doc, he was very caring and supportive. He even encouraged me to go for it and that really helped. It was a very tough decision, to say the least. Many of my family and friends thought I was crazy :) but they were all very supportive. 

After much more research, we met with the wonderful Kathleen & Britt of Hummigbird Doulas.
At this point it was December and my due date was coming quickly. I loved the fact that they were totally honest from the start. They assured me that it's not too late to make the change and it was exactly what I needed to hear. I followed my gut (my literally big belly gut ;) and switched to the great team of Midwives of NJ. The Midwives at this time were Roxy, Cindy and Lisa. The wonderful Cindy turned out to be on call when it was birth time. Our team was just right and ready for the big game: me, Danny, Kathleen and Cindy. 

My labor started a couple days before I gave birth and Kathleen was so great-- phone calls, texts,  all in the wee hours too-- very comforting (that's an understatement). Then when I wanted her to come, she came so quickly - it was 1 am Saturday. She would run over to me every time I had a contraction and help me thru it with all these incredible methods: back and hip holds, cold soda can trick, etc! My husband was right next to her- we were such a great team! The two of them were amazing! It was so good still being at home while I labored...Danny put on Three's Company in the background, I drank water if I wanted, I even took a shower which helped with the pain.

Around 7am, Sicily (who at the time was 3-years-young) woke. It was so hard on me because I didn't want her to see me in pain-- Kathleen was wonderful. Even with our dog, Beanie, she was so great! Very relaxed and calming. Soon after, my sister and brother-in-law picked up Sicily and brought her to hang with her cousins.
Then we all met at the hospital and this was about 8am Sunday. Kathleen stayed with us until after the baby was born (10:09 pm that night)-- with maybe only 2 bathroom breaks!-- she even helped my husband through the long hours. But mostly she helped me -- I could not have gotten thru the labor without this great team. She even took photos after baby was born-- she hung around for a while after too! We absolutely love her! I would definitely hire them again and I would not have a baby without them! :)
They made everything so much smoother! I have to add that everyone at Morristown hospital was great too-it was an amazing experience. If I was at any other hospital in the area, they would not have let me labor that long being a VBAC. I was able to hold the baby immediately! With my first, they said I'd have to wait since the baby's temperature was too cold :(  They had her under heat lamps while I was in recovery. I didn't get to hold her for at least 2 hours, which was very stressful for me (for any mom!).

Kathleen came by for a follow up meeting at 6wks and was wonderful again. Me and the baby ended up getting a thrush infection (long story-post about thrush coming soon!) and she suggested I call Britt, who's an expert on the subject. Britt was amazing!! She would email and call me to check on us-- I think the thrush may have been harder than the labor and birth! Britt really is an expert on thrush and helped me get through it all.
I am so grateful for these two women.
I'm absolutely a huge fan of theirs. We even feel we should have paid them more-- it didn't seem enough for all they did for us! Then they even sent me a Mothers Day card! And gave baby a cute little onesie! They are wonderful women and amazing doulas. In case you were wondering-- I Highly recommend!
What I'm trying to say is that Doulas Rock!! We absolutely Loved Kathleen and Britt. Cannot tell you enough wonderful things about them. They are even wonderful before the birth - they are always around to answer questions and they even call to check on you! To top it off, Kathleen is also a masseuse and she gives a great prenatal massage!

So to answer which birth is better: the c-section or the natural birth? I would say that for me -definitely the natural birth. With the surgery, I hated not being in control, and not being able to feel anything from the waist down-it really freaked me out. I didn't feel any pain during the surgery, but I did end up vomiting while they were putting me back together :-o yikes!  Not fun while laying flat and arms are strapped down. So, natural and painful was right for me ...of course things are just not the same down there ;) but I'd still go with my choice.
I am so happy I followed my heart and switched. As difficult and painful as it is to give birth, I still would choose the natural route if I had to do it all again...and I won't be doing it again :)

Thank You for listening to some of my birth story.
Would LOVE to hear what you think~Please share your own stories and comments!
Wishing you a wonderful pregnancy and birth xo


I highly recommend Kathleen- she was Wonderful!
She is now located in Delaware and this is her new info:
Compass Birth

If you're searching for a doula in the NJ area, Hummingbird Doula Britt is awesome!
Britt 201-317-6185
Hummingbird Doulas


If you need great midwives: Midwives of NJ,  908-509-1801 or 973-264-4307
Midwives of NJ

Monday, March 3, 2014

Who is Danieye?


"Who the 'h' am I to blog?" That's what that mean, annoying, critic voice in my head sounds like...she always has something to say.
Well, here I am anyway. This time I beat 'the critic' and went for it :)
I call myself Danieye (as in dani-eye) but my name is Daniela. Danieye comes from my maiden name Isgro..Dani I. So this is me.









Like most women, I am many things:
a mom, wife, sister, daughter, auntie, friend, writer, singer, artist, performer, minister...and I have many projects in the works. Sometimes I feel like my plate's too full and I get overwhelmed, but its all good-I love it! 
I usually use humor in all things- I consider myself to be pretty funny :) perhaps as you continue to read, you'll agree! or maybe you won't ;)

I'm one who really believes in 'believing in yourself'. Although I preach it and write songs about it- I struggle with believing in myself. It's as if I write the songs and messages to my self /my inner child. I really wish it would sink in already...instead of all the other nasty junk that seems to stick.
It could be about trusting myself as a mom or about believing I'm actually an artist. No matter what I've always done in life, confidence has always been an issue for me. It actually makes me sad and mad...and then sad again. I feel it has really held me back in many things.
I do notice as I continue to work on myself and grow, it gets easier. I just turned 40! Hooray! I'm actually feeling wiser and more comfortable in my skin already! I have thought about writing an online discussion (blog), so I figure- why not. In every single thing I do, I have to fight that lousy 'critic'...let me give it a name ...hmmmm...I'll call her "BruTal" (rhymes with pal :) lets see if that sticks.

Life is good!
My husband is Danny (yes yes-dan and dan are we~ danieye and dannyb). He is truly the best. He is my love and my best friend. The smartest person I know (except for our girls maybe ;) And I must say that he is the most incredible daddy too!

Our two daughters make us feel so lucky everyday (mostly ;) 
They are wonderful & beautiful souls. Sicily is 5. She loves to sing, dance, draw, paint, perform, tell stories--hear them and act them out, & create any way that she can! 
Fiora is 2. She also loves singing and dancing, drawing- (& most of the things her big sister does-only not as flashy and dramatic :) Both love books and playing with Scooby friends and Barbies. They are both very silly and very affectionate with each other. Both sisters always look out for each other; I love that.
I love watching them play. They are quite exquisite and amaze us everyday. 
There's also a sweet, black lab mix doggie, and she's also our daughter. Her name is JavaBean and we call her many things: JavaBeanie, Bean, Beanie, the bean (like the Fonz), JB, etc. She recently turned 10, so she was our first 'baby'.

I love life! My hope is to inspire, amuse, entertain and encourage with my writings and skits. Yes, there will be visuals in the future.
I'll also be sharing some of my 'Mom' experiences: w/ sleep, organic products, much researching of different products, preschools, etc... Hope they help you. My message is that life is good and that we moms (and dads too!) should stick together and support each other on this journey... this life journey full of lots of love, fun and funny  :) After all, 'moms just wanna have fun' (dads too)!  I do love the 80s :)
Please join me and share your own experiences along the way.

Boy do I miss writing! Stay tuned for more juices... Wooohoooooo!
PS: you'll see I tend to use the word 'juice' for everything :] enjoy!
xo